Why are people so afraid to admit they are wrong here?

hypericin August 30, 2022 at 23:40 6100 views 29 comments
I include myself in this, though I am trying to change. It is as if there were something shameful about being wrong, which is ridiculous in any context, let alone philosophy discussion.

Rather than admit they are wrong, people will cling to their position to the very end. If their position becomes untenable, people generally fall silent. This feels unsatisfying for everyone involved.

We would all be much better off if we fully embrace being wrong, and changing our positions. We will not get it right the first time, that is a guarantee. Famous philosophers don't, so how can we?

Comments (29)

Metaphysician Undercover August 31, 2022 at 01:16 #734588
I think we argue a position to bring out all the fine details of that position, and also bring out the details of the counter position which someone else is arguing. The devil is in the details. We should be ready and willing to change our beliefs when the details don't work out right.
Noble Dust August 31, 2022 at 03:43 #734617
Pride, obviously.
180 Proof August 31, 2022 at 04:33 #734631
As I've said to a number incorrigibles, dogmatists or bullshitters here on TPF
I'm here to expose poor thinking and not to persuade you of anything.

It's either pride or insecurity that blocks one from admitting one is wrong when one has been shown to be wrong.
Noble Dust August 31, 2022 at 05:37 #734641
I'm here to expose poor thinking


And doubtless you've never failed.
Seeker August 31, 2022 at 10:27 #734701
Quoting hypericin
Rather than admit they are wrong, people will cling to their position to the very end.


Perhaps some cannot see the wrong in their doing while others may be incorrigible demagogues.
Universal Student August 31, 2022 at 13:26 #734724
What is "wrong" and how does one define and measure this idea against what is "right", which is another idea to grasp. Are these positions perspectives?

While a willingness to question and examine oneself as well as others while shedding biases when they are made known seems an important element to cultivating flexibility, but to what end and what is the core motivation?

If we somehow decide that subject A is right and subject B is wrong, and subject B yields to this and thus changes his position to match that of A, what then? What do you do with that? What is the function of this determination and the resulting shift. How many moments will pass before Subject C comes along and it is somehow determined that both Subject A and now B are wrong and Subject C is right. Then what? Positions change again, resulting in another shift.

If everything is always changing, does it really matter who in whichever moment is right or wrong or is this not leading to a deeper inquiry ofwhat is true and what is false?
180 Proof August 31, 2022 at 17:55 #734782
Reply to Noble Dust Doubtless you are mistaken.
Metaphysician Undercover September 01, 2022 at 01:49 #734896
Quoting Universal Student
If we somehow decide that subject A is right and subject B is wrong, and subject B yields to this and thus changes his position to match that of A, what then? What do you do with that? What is the function of this determination and the resulting shift. How many moments will pass before Subject C comes along and it is somehow determined that both Subject A and now B are wrong and Subject C is right. Then what? Positions change again, resulting in another shift.


It's not that one is right, and the other is wrong, the thesis and antithesis sublate each other, and the resulting synthesis creates something new. Hegelian dialectics.
Universal Student September 01, 2022 at 11:59 #734991
Reply to Metaphysician Undercover

Your consideration in reply is appreciated. Would you say that we are shaping one another in the processes towards revealing fundamental principles and truth?
Metaphysician Undercover September 01, 2022 at 12:29 #735001
Reply to Universal Student
Yes, that's a good way to put it, the learning process is a shaping. If one's mind is completely closed, as hypericin is afraid of in the op, then no shaping (learning) occurs. In Hegelian dialectics, which I briefly described, the synthesis called sublation is described as "becoming". What is proposed as "what is" is sublated with "is not", and this is synthesized into a new proposal of "what is" (like a compromise), to be sublated all over again, onward and onward, in a process which is not circular, but more like a spiral. This is very similar to what you described, except that position C is a synthesis of the opposing A and B.
Universal Student September 01, 2022 at 16:01 #735058
Quoting Metaphysician Undercover
I think we argue a position to bring out all the fine details of that position, and also bring out the details of the counter position which someone else is arguing. The devil is in the details. We should be ready and willing to change our beliefs when the details don't work out right.


This is a simple and useful way of looking at opposing positions. Thank you for sharing. It seems like if we approach arguments from a space of willingness to break down belief systems with understanding, not just in the other but with a readiness also to put our own viewpoint under examination; that we can work together to help one another achieve greater degrees of clarity.

So instead of stating any one person is, "right" or "wrong", or even that it doesn't matter which is which, we can further simplify this by stating that there is is no right or wrong. There is merely that position which is different from another and is subject to change.

In attempts to reveal ultimate truth, we must be willing to put that pursuit first before ourselves and that which we have clung to up until any given moment when we may need to return it because it is fully realized to be false.

Reply to hypericin

Perhaps then, this is an aspect of why humans often hold fast to their position even when the details are laid bare. That core readiness is undeveloped. Like a child grasping a comforting blanket, they are not ready to let go. You can't rush fruit to ripen.Though you can create favorable conditions to speed up the process a smidge in some instances.
Universal Student September 01, 2022 at 16:01 #735059
Quoting Metaphysician Undercover
Yes, that's a good way to put it, the learning process is a shaping. If one's mind is completely closed, as hypericin is afraid of in the op, then no shaping (learning) occurs. In Hegelian dialectics, which I briefly described, the synthesis called sublation is described as "becoming". What is proposed as "what is" is sublated with "is not", and this is synthesized into a new proposal of "what is" (like a compromise), to be sublated all over again, onward and onward, in a process which is not circular, but more like a spiral. This is very similar to what you described, except that position C is a synthesis of the opposing A and B.


Thank you. This brings clarity! Instead of shifts in perspective which re-enforce circular patterns and loops that leave no wiggle room for change or the expansion of understanding, we have this spiral pattern allowing us to be more flexible and adaptable so that we can learn from our mistakes and thus improve as a species.
Metaphysician Undercover September 02, 2022 at 01:06 #735173
Quoting Universal Student
So instead of stating any one person is, "right" or "wrong", or even that it doesn't matter which is which, we can further simplify this by stating that there is is no right or wrong. There is merely that position which is different from another and is subject to change.


Think of "right" and "wrong" as being determined by the current norms of the society. In this sense, there is in many cases a valid right and wrong, what is consistent with conventional principles. However, when we seek what you call "ultimate truth", we have to have some way to go beyond right and wrong, because the conventional principles which constitute "right", in one's society, may not be consistent with the ultimate truth. In other words, we need to be free to question the current norms of our society, in the way of the skeptic
Agent Smith September 02, 2022 at 04:28 #735236
[quote=Cunningham's Law]The best way to get the right answer on the internet is not to ask a question; it's to post the wrong answer.[/quote]

Deleted User September 02, 2022 at 17:03 #735325
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Universal Student September 03, 2022 at 13:25 #735559
Quoting Metaphysician Undercover
Think of "right" and "wrong" as being determined by the current norms of the society. In this sense, there is in many cases a valid right and wrong, what is consistent with conventional principles. However, when we seek what you call "ultimate truth", we have to have some way to go beyond right and wrong, because the conventional principles which constitute "right", in one's society, may not be consistent with the ultimate truth. In other words, we need to be free to question the current norms of our society, in the way of the skeptic


Interesting. Thank you for the reply. Bringing society into it gives me some things to digest.
Agent Smith September 05, 2022 at 04:23 #736118
The desire to be right is stronger (emotionally) than the desire to find & know the truth. In essence ego ante omnia (I before all) [Google translate)
Ying September 28, 2022 at 13:44 #743071
My guess? Ossified belief systems, ego and cognitive dissonance.
180 Proof September 28, 2022 at 19:48 #743158
For too many, admitting you are wrong is even more (emotionally/cognitively) difficult than making the effort to discern / acknowledge what is and is not the case.
praxis September 29, 2022 at 20:31 #743435
Reply to Deleted User

ThatΒ’s weird.
Hanover October 02, 2022 at 13:45 #744092
Quoting hypericin
It as if there were something shameful about being wrong, which is ridiculous in any context, let alone philosophy discussion.


I'll get started with the mea culpa:


180 Proof October 02, 2022 at 18:05 #744144
Reply to Hanover :cool:

[i]It's all my fault
I must have
done somebody wrong
Oh yeah ...[/i]



Oh, I almost forgot ...
Agent Smith October 04, 2022 at 08:27 #744797
Jainism has two intriguing concepts.

1. Anekantavada (no-one-sidedness): A claim can be true, but only so under one/more conditions. Remove/alter these conditions and it ceases to be true. The word "sy?d" or "syat" meaning maybe/perhaps prefaces all claims.


2. Nayavada (perspectivism): A naya is a point of view and there are as many truths as there are nayas.

A judge took his friend along to a court hearing. The plaintiff presented his story, the judge announced "you are right!" The defendant took the stand and presented his side of the story. The judge declared "you're right!" The friend, quite shocked by this, objected "they can't both be right!" The judge replied calmly, "you are also right!" :snicker:
Metaphysician Undercover October 18, 2022 at 01:31 #749320
Quoting Deleted User
This user has been deleted and all their posts removed.


That's an excellent username. And what better way to admit that you were wrong, then to delete all your posts.
Jack Cummins October 18, 2022 at 22:57 #749617
Reply to hypericin
It probably is a humble thing to be able to admit that one is wrong. On this forum, and in many other public spheres there is often a lot of bravado, even some grandiosity. When I was working and before that there seems to be an emphasis on selling oneself, and an emphasis on making a big thing out of one's strength and playing down weaknesses. It is related to egocentricism and the notion of 'the big I am.' However, in spite of such values I would probably respect or admire someone admitting that they are wrong as a form of honesty and willingness to modify thinking. I wonder to what extent others may hold this view in spite of the ethos of defending one's position to the bitter end.
Seeker October 19, 2022 at 22:16 #749863
Reply to Jack Cummins
According to psychology humility gets easily confused with weakness and presenting oneself (too) vulnerable.

Projecting a facade of infallibility could be explained as yet a(nother) form of (social) escapism (hiding ones face) which as a consequence also prevents any (sincere) social contact as the 'subject' isnt true to form, i.e. remains 'unknown' to its surroundings.
jgill October 20, 2022 at 04:19 #749933
Quoting Metaphysician Undercover
This user has been deleted and all their posts removed. Β— Deleted User


That's an excellent username. And what better way to admit that you were wrong, then to delete all your posts.


A sort of "Cancel Culture" of TPF.
Agent Smith October 20, 2022 at 09:38 #749987
[quote=Ms. Marple]Most interesting.[/quote]

I hope I'm wrong!
Nils Loc October 29, 2022 at 18:45 #752457
More importantly, who is wrong about what and have they been sufficiently disabused by peer review/pressure. Can they get the cane? Or is humiliation of being called out as a wrong doer enough.