Are You Happy?

Mikie December 15, 2022 at 22:29 5225 views 42 comments
Whoever you are reading this right now -- are you happy?

Comments (42)

Moliere December 15, 2022 at 22:32 #764254
Yup.
jgill December 15, 2022 at 22:35 #764257
At 85 not feeling bad means happy :cool:
Shawn December 15, 2022 at 22:51 #764261
I set myself up for failure too often to be happy.
frank December 15, 2022 at 22:53 #764262
Yes
Mark Nyquist December 15, 2022 at 23:06 #764265
I cycle,
I'm happy, then people annoy me and I get cranky, then they leave me alone and I'm happy. Sometimes I just need to find solutions involving others and can't worry too much about happy.
Not happy all the time but when nothing is too bad I'm happy.
Andrew4Handel December 16, 2022 at 00:03 #764272
I am the happiest I have been as an adult.
Metaphysician Undercover December 16, 2022 at 00:39 #764274
Happy! When I'm reading The Philosophy Forums I'm happy. Enough said!
Vera Mont December 16, 2022 at 00:51 #764277
Mostly, yes.
Whatever may be going on out there, my personal life is good.
Banno December 16, 2022 at 01:09 #764280
No. My tea cup is empty.
Metaphysician Undercover December 16, 2022 at 01:46 #764285
Reply to Banno
Fill your cup and join the brigade of happiness. Its a joyful time of year.
T Clark December 16, 2022 at 01:54 #764287
I'd be happier if this was in the Lounge where it belongs.

Mikie December 16, 2022 at 02:07 #764289
Quoting Moliere
Yup.


Reply to jgill Reply to Shawn Reply to frank Reply to Mark Nyquist Reply to Andrew4Handel Reply to Metaphysician Undercover Reply to Vera Mont Reply to Banno

I'm surprised no one asked "What do you mean by happiness?" So I'll ask it of all of you who so far responded. If it a feeling, like joy and pleasure, or something else?

Andrew4Handel December 16, 2022 at 02:20 #764292
Quoting Mikie
"What do you mean by happiness?"


Its hard to define but maybe an absence of sadness and a level of contentment.

The absence of sadness is pleasurable in itself.
Metaphysician Undercover December 16, 2022 at 02:22 #764293
Reply to Mikie Definitely a feeling for me. I feel happy. I would also say that there is a deeper state, a disposition, or something like that, which often allows me to overcome the inclination toward negative feelings and maintain, or restore happiness, like tuning in to TPF for example as a diversion. Diversions are very useful.
frank December 16, 2022 at 02:46 #764296
There was a time when I didn't know what it was. I remember one guy told me that a baby is born with his fists clenched tight, but an old man dies with his hands open. I thought that sounded great, but it was meaningless.
Vera Mont December 16, 2022 at 03:01 #764298
Quoting Mikie
I'm surprised no one asked "What do you mean by happiness?" So I'll ask it of all of you who so far responded.


General satisfaction with one's life, work, environment and relationships. I'm unhappy about the world at large, anxious about old age and physical frailty, frustrated at what I can't do anymore and disgruntled at the aches and pains. But I have a safe place to sleep, a solid marriage; we can still talk, laugh and enjoy things together; we have a comfortable enough home in beautiful countryside; we have enough material wealth for our needs, and we keep our minds and hands busy.
tomatohorse December 16, 2022 at 03:27 #764305
Yes, I'd say so. I am generally speaking able to do the things I want, so that is a source of happiness.
magictriangle December 16, 2022 at 04:10 #764312
I sometimes believe my life satisfaction rating has gone up, so I am going to say that I am pretty happy. The sources of my life's upward arch have been seeking medical treatment, not falling into debt, and not delving into romantic relationships. Sometimes as I am contemplating this question, I think that I am rather bleek on my outlook. It could seem like my satisfaction with my life is stagnant or worsening, but overall I am beginning to have the 'I am complete now' outlook.
jgill December 16, 2022 at 05:07 #764320
Quoting Mikie
If it a feeling, like joy and pleasure, or something else?


Ineffable. See the appropriate thread for an explanation.
universeness December 16, 2022 at 10:55 #764352
universeness December 16, 2022 at 11:07 #764358
universeness December 16, 2022 at 11:10 #764360
universeness December 16, 2022 at 11:12 #764361
Moliere December 16, 2022 at 12:51 #764401
Quoting Mikie
I'm surprised no one asked "What do you mean by happiness?" So I'll ask it of all of you who so far responded. If it a feeling, like joy and pleasure, or something else?


I think it's complicated, and somewhat relative. There's enough overlap between people who seem happy and what they say about it that there's something worthwhile in thinking about it. But I'm not sure the path after meaning would help as much as hinder -- I basically know what happiness is, even if it's not just joy or even if it doesn't follow a particular regimen prescribed for happiness. So I said "Yup"
Vera Mont December 16, 2022 at 17:05 #764466
We each know what we mean by it. But there are factors that seem more more nearly universal.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1613092/
Good documentary.
Benj96 December 16, 2022 at 17:11 #764467
Reply to Mikie Yes I am.

But perhaps "Happy" isn't the exact term I'd use depending on what you mean by it.
For me "content" is a better one because for me:. "Happy" is a brief temporary emotion. Situational and transient.

"Contentment" on the other hand is a long standing general positive mood, sense of well-being, peace and resilience.

I say resilience because bad shit happens regularly, and you may feel temporarily frustrated, unsettled or upset. That doesn't mean you aren't generally content. As "unhappy" is also a short term brief emotion.

Sad to happy is as contentment is to depression/hopelessness.

Its a matter of duration.
Benj96 December 16, 2022 at 17:13 #764470
Quoting jgill
At 85 not feeling bad means happy


Haha fair enough. And long may it last :) Health and staying active/able is everything really at the end of the day.

Chronic pain I think is perhaps the most debilitating thing, a lot else is tolerable but pain is a toughy.
BC December 17, 2022 at 06:46 #764616
Reply to Mikie When asked whether she was happy, the opera diva Beverly Sills said, "Let's just say I'm cheerful."

I am happy. I am either at peace or resigned to the inevitable. I don't let doomsday bother me; do you let it bother you?

The drummer in Elvis Perkins' band makes me happy,

universeness December 17, 2022 at 12:35 #764642
180 Proof December 17, 2022 at 19:55 #764719
Mikie December 17, 2022 at 22:39 #764749
If happiness is a good, or the good, then what is it? If its living in accord with our nature, then what is our nature?

The function of an axe is to cut. To be a "good" axe is to cut well. I think Aristotle would say that the soul or nature of a human is thinking, what normally gets translated as "reason."

So to be happy, we should live in accordance with our function -- with reason; with the goals that one decides on; with virtue.

I've always liked that picture.

Happiness, then, has nothing to do with feelings of pleasure or joy, or a good time. It's a life-long pursuit, and we can't determine whether one has lived a happy life until it's completed.

I like that formulation too. Nietzsche's isn't bad either, really.

Anyway, this was my plan for this thread. Didn't quite go as I expected. Oh well! I moved it to the lounge, so feel free to continue posting whatever you'd like.
Moliere December 19, 2022 at 22:33 #765098
Quoting Mikie
Happiness, then, has nothing to do with feelings of pleasure or joy, or a good time. It's a life-long pursuit, and we can't determine whether one has lived a happy life until it's completed.


You should have started with the ending post. :)

There is something to the notion that happiness is not ephemeral. Happiness is achieved through the day-to-day, not within a single day. I can have a bad day and continue to be happy. I can feel sad about a particular thing and still continue to be happy.

However, I think I'd say that a notion of happiness that requires us to live the entirety of life isn't very useful for those of us who want to be happy. We're not going to be around at the end of it all to make a judgment -- that would be a judgment for the historians or philosophers.

Feelings, I think, are an important part of happiness, though, while pleasure isn't simple. "Joy" I think gets much closer to happiness than our lexical "pleasure" or "good time". The pleasure of happiness is consistent between various pleasures and pains -- it's more of an overall satisfaction with the way things are for oneself than immediate pleasure and pain. And satisfaction is at least partially dependent upon what a person wants.

So if you want something aside from basic pleasures and pains -- say, goodness, or justice, or power -- and you don't have those things, you will be unhappy. Even if your basic needs are met your mind will gravitate towards the things you want and the opposite of happiness will occur. It's not exactly displeasure, but frustration.
Mikie December 23, 2022 at 04:20 #765972
Quoting Moliere
You should have started with the ending post. :)


I know. It made sense when I startedΒ— I had it all planned out. I botched it.
Moliere December 23, 2022 at 13:12 #766042
Reply to Mikie Oh I wouldn't be that harsh on yourself. I was saying, here's the OP! You got there! I found something I could say and respond to in it, at least.
javi2541997 June 20, 2024 at 12:32 #911148
I am not usually happy in summertime. I don't like this season. It is full of days with high temperatures and sweating is disgusting. But June is being acceptable this year. We have been having 'summer storms' since this past Monday in Madrid.

Yet I am still negative towards summer. July and August will be like a boiled pot...
180 Proof June 20, 2024 at 18:18 #911178
Reply to Mikie 'Happiness', I think (ime), corresponds to freedom from fear and pain. Sometimes I'm happy; most of the time, however, I'm striving to be (briefly) happy again.

:death: :flower:
Benkei June 20, 2024 at 18:34 #911181
I'm happy when I pay attention and make the effort to be happy. Most of the time that means striving to be a better man. For instance, it means not being snappy when I'm tired and then I get all the warmth and attention from the kids to last me a life time.
Vera Mont June 20, 2024 at 21:56 #911207
Quoting Mikie
So to be happy, we should live in accordance with our function -- with reason; with the goals that one decides on; with virtue.


Do you truly believe we all have a 'function'? In what context? To what end? An axe is designed by a human tool-maker for the purpose of cutting wood, as the human requires wood. So the function of a human must be determined by an intelligent designer for that designer's own requirement.
Quoting Mikie
Happiness, then, has nothing to do with feelings of pleasure or joy, or a good time. It's a life-long pursuit, and we can't determine whether one has lived a happy life until it's completed.

I don't at all like being nothing more than a tool that is judged good or bad according to some god's whim, once I'm dead.

I'm far, far happier with a notion of a good life centered on my own proclivities, needs, abilities and desires. After all, it's my life, not Allah's or Jesus's or Aristotle's. I'm the only one qualified to judge whether it's been painless (9 out of 10) successful (7), useful (8) virtuous (7) enjoyable (6) and fulfilling (8). On the whole, I've reached this point where there is not much left to fear except the last slide down. There is a freedom in that that can be added to the overall life satisfaction.

Tom Storm June 21, 2024 at 00:27 #911226
Quoting 180 Proof
'Happiness', I think (ime), corresponds to freedom from fear and pain. Sometimes I'm happy; most of the time, however, I'm striving to be (briefly) happy again.


That's good. I was going to say something similar about happiness being free of stress and anxiety (pain?). I wonder if we sometimes confuse happiness with joy - which is a great, big electrical experience and this I also feel quite regularly. Happiness seems to be a by-product of other things and not an end goal of its own.
Vera Mont June 21, 2024 at 00:35 #911228
Happiness is a distillation: freedom from pain and stress, with regular infusions of satisfaction, comfort, companionship, love, plus the odd unexpected shot of exuberance, hilarity, joy, awe, wonder and even, if you're very, very lucky, ecstasy.
180 Proof June 21, 2024 at 04:37 #911247
Quoting Tom Storm
I wonder if we sometimes confuse happiness with joy

I think so. I often experience joy listening to music, reading, creating, orgasming, helping someone in non-trivial ways and from long vigor walks/hikes even when I'm not happy.
Quoting Vera Mont
ecstasy

Yes, sobriety's ego-suspending flow state that's sometimes joyful too.

Tom Storm June 21, 2024 at 05:26 #911250